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Come in! Come in, settle down on the comfy couch, and let me pour you a cup of tea. Curl up under this snuggly blanket and let’s talk about self-care.

It’s been rough out there, hasn’t it? You’ve spent a lot of time supporting, resourcing, reframing, and containing, creating safe holding spaces for all the feelings that people are bringing into your office (or your virtual office). …


Why and how to use movement in a therapy session

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There are jokes about the therapy couch, but people expect to sit and talk during therapy. As I’ve said before, talking as the only healing path is limiting. Somatic therapists have other tools. Movement is an important one.

Movement facilitates the process of therapy. Muscular and joint activation increase access…


Perinatal therapists work with issues that arise during pregnancy and the postpartum period, including mood disorders like postpartum mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs), but our expertise isn’t limited to PMADS. There are many other kinds of situations in which a perinatal therapist can be helpful. …


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We all have stories about our lives. This includes the Big Stories about how we got to be the way we are, and the little ones, like traffic during school drop-off. We experience something and we tell ourselves and others about our experience. …


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Anyone can be struck by a wave of impostor syndrome. It is that wave of shame and self-doubt that washes over you when you have stuck your neck out, or made a statement of some kind, or have taken a social risk. Generally it happens in the context of your…


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I have been a practitioner of mindfulness and of mindfulness meditation since accidentally tripping over some lectures by Pema Chodron about twenty years ago. My interest was piqued, but I found the actual practice of sitting in meditation was difficult: far more difficult than the marathon I had run the…


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I now see my clients on a video screen. How do we create a container for therapy when we are not in the same space as our clients?

Therapy offices are contained places. They are spaces in which people can feel and express and experience themselves in a safe and protected way, held safely by the space and the therapist.

Clients come to therapy because something isn’t working in their lives. They feel miserable, or empty, or distraught…


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The term “self-care” is all over the internet, aimed at first (I think) at women who probably don’t take care of themselves particularly well, but more recently becoming a buzzword designed to sell products and services.

Radical care of the self isn’t about buying things or even about buying a…


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Most people are a little more stressed and tense now, during the COVID crisis, than usual. Some people are a lot more distressed. …


Here is a radical suggestion. Instead of DOING more, try doing less.

Try resting.

But not just any resting; try constructive rest.

If you are a high achiever, or someone who likes to Get Things Done, constructive rest might be just the ticket. …

Leslie Ann Costello

Psychologist, bioenergetic psychotherapist, and trainer. Watch for my forthcoming book, Somatic Tools for Perinatal Therapists.

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